tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7010953641145956608.post6033974896974546345..comments2024-01-18T05:08:18.454-08:00Comments on Borneo Expat Writer: Family Stories -- the Good and the BadBorneo Expat Writerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15657806224924444058noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7010953641145956608.post-38293520192884278962011-04-29T01:32:56.036-07:002011-04-29T01:32:56.036-07:00Tonya,
Hi, thanks for pointing this out! I alread...Tonya,<br />Hi, thanks for pointing this out! I already made some revisions! By the way, a couple of people have contacted me personally about this (from the blog and the short story), thanking me because for the first time in their lives, they felt they could open up about their own hurt feelings having been put into a similar position as children. After all those years, they have begun the healing process. How many others have benefited personally, I do not know. <br /><br />I know I did, through the act of writing the story, after piecing together bits and pieces, after sitting down and talking with all those involved, at least six relatives, not including my grandfather, but we did meet with him before he passed away.<br /><br />Like all family stories, it was not easy to talk about, nor write about. But if others can benefit, and it helps them in their lives...<br /><br />It's a moral judgment, I know that. There are no right answers. I do know for a fact, verified by at least four people, that my grandmother never believed my mother, and I feel this is also a crime, but that was common back in those days when family matters were never discussed so openly. She was not there for her own daughter and that bothered me, and I loved my grandmother dearly....Just be there for your children, and I hope to be here for mine. And let's pray, that our children never have to go through what our mother did. Bless you. <br /><br />Btw, here’s my contact: raymermalaysia@yahoo.comBorneo Expat Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15657806224924444058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7010953641145956608.post-43727886290048344952011-04-28T18:13:30.291-07:002011-04-28T18:13:30.291-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.tonyamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00030044038362572983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7010953641145956608.post-3113995984434446192011-04-22T20:28:40.411-07:002011-04-22T20:28:40.411-07:00Sintaicharles, Thanks. Some of my most important ...Sintaicharles, Thanks. Some of my most important stories, those that seem to resonate with readers, have been based on families, often involving incest or molestation, or being pressured into doing something that they don't want to do. <br /><br />I often change the point of view, descriptions and names of people, the setting as I craft it into fiction. Often when writing about something troubling I find answers in unexpected ways.<br /><br />Moments after posting this, a friend on facebook contacted me about her own confession, an incident involving an uncle when she was a child. My reply was that these encounters are a lot more common than we'd like to admit. <br /><br />I've even had male students writing about being molested by their older male cousins. Often it's relatives that inflict the most damage since they had access to children during family gatherings and sleepovers, either through bullying them into submission or threathening to harm others in the family, a younger sibling, if they don't.Borneo Expat Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15657806224924444058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7010953641145956608.post-35899442397651124762011-04-22T05:25:53.083-07:002011-04-22T05:25:53.083-07:00Thank you for the sharing. My heart goes out to yo...Thank you for the sharing. My heart goes out to your student and your family members. Ya, you're right. Writing about painful experiences is therapeutic. A cousin of mine ever told me about it.I will try writing about those of my family.sintaicharleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11868981642239038913noreply@blogger.com